In November I wrote Before You Left or After You Left. Yesterday I read this, which felt all too familiar. And then I walked into their room-- the room they've never been in, but the room that is nevertheless theirs-- and I noticed the beds were neatly made. It was just the bare mattresses before; because I knew they weren't coming, it didn't make sense to put sheets, pillowcases, and ... Read More
Before You Left or After You Left
I remember things in two categories now; before you left or after you left. Left is the past tense and past participle of leave. To leave, in the sense I mean it, is defined by Merriam-Webster as: to go away from, to withdraw from, to terminate association with. Synonyms include depart, abandon, desert. I remember how at first it seemed to happen gradually. There were some random ... Read More
How To Lose a Grown-Ass Woman in Ten Steps
How to Lose a Grown-Ass Woman in Ten Steps Dating in midlife is anything but easy; many women find themselves in quite a quandary when they jump in, only to realize some prospective partners still live like teenagers. I thought it might be good to warn you in advance so you don't waste as much time as I did! The following scenarios bear a striking resemblance to some real-life events; ... Read More