Please welcome Elizabeth Flora Ross, who blogs about her struggles and successes as a writer and a mom at The Writer Revived. She is the author of Cease Fire: A Call to End the War Between Women, which she is currently working to get published. In 2011 she launched The Mom Pledge, an online campaign to eradicate cyber bullying among moms. You can connect with her on Twitter, Facebook and Google+. She loves social media!
I got into blogging for two reasons. First of all, I thought it would be a great
way for me to write regularly. Having completed the proposal for my book and
sent out my first round of submissions to literary agents, I was in a holding
pattern. That’s not good for writers. We need to write.
I also hoped it would help me build the “platform” I need to get the attention of
a literary agent, and later a publisher. Nonfiction writers aren’t ever
considered without a significant following. From the perspective of the
publishing industry, I am a nobody.
So I started blogging. I had absolutely no idea what I was doing. And it showed. I
alternately laugh and cringe when I look at some of my earlier posts. But I am
proud of how far I have come from my humble beginnings.
There was a benefit to blogging I never expected – making incredible connections. And
that is what led me to love it so much. Blogging and social media enabled me to
meet people I never would otherwise. It offered so many opportunities.
I’ve gotten to know some extremely talented writers. They encourage me, teach me,
and push me to be better. I’ve connected with other moms. They support me
through the challenging days and share in the little – and big – joys.
The connections I have made online are real. Authentic. Amazing. The people I have
met are my friends. They understand me. They know what I am going through. And
I connect more with them than I do people “in real life” these days.
But lately I feel I’m talking to myself. Like no one is listening out in the
blogosphere. All the people who usually read my blog are busy these days. And I
I’m in the same position. Ever since I launched The Mom Pledge, I can barely keep
my head above water. I don’t have time to read and comment on blogs as much as
I would like to.
I try to promote and support others the best I can. And yes, it is far easier to
tweet, retweet, Stumble, post a link on FB, etc. than to make a comment. That’s
why so many are doing it.
So where does that leave me as a blogger? I’m really struggling with this right
now. At this point, I don’t write my blog for me. That may be how it started,
but that is not how it has evolved.
If I wanted to write for myself, I could do that without sharing it publicly. I
don’t write my blog for “practice” anymore, or to build a professional
presence. What I have come to realize is that I prefer to use my writing as a
way of reaching out to and inspiring others.
I write to connect, and lately I don’t feel I am. I have a fair number of
readers, but not many comments on most posts. And I don’t like it.
I know I’m not alone. I see lots of other bloggers writing about this very
issue. But it doesn’t seem any of us have a solution. Have you experienced
this? How do you feel about it? What have you done to try to address it?
Are you there, blogosphere? It’s me, Elizabeth. I love you, but I’m not sure what
I’m doing out here anymore…