I don’t understand why, if you have a LGBTQ (an acronym for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, or Queer, for those who don’t know) person in your family (like me)– or even a friend that is gay, or your dog groomer is gay, or even your mailman or your endocrinologist — you cannot simply support him/her. It’s not your life or your choice, and it doesn’t concern you. Let people live their lives.
I don’t understand why, if someone in your immediate family is gay, you hide in the shadows rather than stand up and be openly supportive. I don’t understand your denial. What are you afraid of? Are you afraid of what other people think? gasp! IT ISN’T ABOUT YOU. Let the “other people” deal with it!
I don’t understand why a gay relationship is different than a straight one. I don’t understand why bigger things are at stake. And why some couples are held to higher standards just because they happen to be of the same sex.
Your gay daughter is not going to go away or decide she’s straight “after all.” Neither is your gay father or your gay brother. Your sister and her girlfriend are getting married and your uncle and his partner are moving in together. Gay is here to stay, people.
Time to get with the program. Saddle up. Put on your big girl panties.
Say hello to this big “new” world. Get comfortable with it.
You can’t hide from the camera. The lens will still catch it all. The secrets, the lies, things left unsaid. The feelings you think you’re concealing. They’re all out there, in plain sight.
Time to come up with a better plan.