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I Had a VBAC, or There’s a Bowling Ball in My Lady Bits.

November 29, 2011

I’ve been quiet & you haven’t heard much from me

Because I barely have time to breathe or to pee.

Sometimes I want to bang my head against a wall

And in between my legs it feels like there is a giant, heavy

BOWLING BALL

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Why oh why did the doc encourage me to have a VBAC?

Because he was a man; hence bona fide childbirth experience he lacked.

My baby girl is a doll, there’s no doubt.

But I’m in awe of the place where her head came out.

She is lovely and Piper is her name–

Though I fear my vajayjay will never be the same.

The End.

pssst….did you catch my Mommy Monologues post over at Aiming Low?

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Comments

  1. Terri Sonoda says

    November 29, 2011 at 6:29 pm

    So, I just spit my ice tea all over the place.   Love this Erin!  So happy to see you blogging.  Miss you!

  2. Jana Anthoine says

    November 29, 2011 at 6:31 pm

    Ouch. Just ouch. 

    • Varda says

      December 2, 2011 at 4:21 pm

      Well, I had my twins via planned C-section (1 in a bad / dangerous position), and my family is DONE, so I will never know firsthand of what you speak. The visual aid for this post, though? Priceless. 

      I realized I hadn’t done it yet (my bad, busy month) so came over to say hello and congrats on the new baby. Hope your brain cells are holding up, as you get through these first 3 crazy months. Your daughter is beautiful (like her mom).

  3. buriedwithchildren says

    November 29, 2011 at 6:34 pm

    That is just wrong in my book. My doctor said I could try a VBAC for my triplets. I laughed at him and walked, no waddled, out of the office. 

  4. Holly504Main says

    November 29, 2011 at 6:38 pm

    No you won’t be the same…sorry to tell ya that (I think they have plastic surgery for that now though). My cousin had a VBAC and afterward said if she ever had another kid to just cut her open.
    CONGRATS to you and you rfamily!

  5. From Tracie says

    November 29, 2011 at 6:58 pm

    Oh my gosh. laughing.so.hard. (kind of feeling bad about it, but you are just too funny)

  6. Random Blogette says

    November 29, 2011 at 7:14 pm

    That was so awesome that I had to read it to Dave. He said it was awesome too. Kudos to you doll for having a VBAC. You are brave and I am so sorry for your vajayjay issues. I am so glad that I had a c-section.

  7. Elaine A. says

    November 29, 2011 at 7:56 pm

    I think it’s pretty awesome that you had a VBAC.  But I totally get this because I had a VBBC and that is why I chose to have subsequent c-sections.  I hope you heal quickly and well. xo

  8. Anonymous says

    November 29, 2011 at 9:01 pm

    It will get better momma I promise if it didn’t there would never be follow up kids to the first time vaginal deliveries think about it.. KEGELS are your friend trust me

  9. Mindy says

    November 29, 2011 at 10:32 pm

    Ok. So, I’ve had 3 vaginal deliveries and I always wondered if I was the only one who thought things seemed…um…lmore bowling ball-esque. We should talk. 

  10. jessica says

    November 30, 2011 at 7:13 am

    Oh I always wondered about how that would be but one after another I always had to have a c-section. Ugh, crossing my legs for you.

  11. Evonne says

    November 30, 2011 at 8:18 am

    Just because a man went to school to learn that the natural way to give birth is vaginal does NOT mean he will ever understand it.  And logically, how is it natural to fit something the size of a watermelon through a hole the size of a dime?

    Recovery sucks, but it does get better.  I promise.

  12. Ally says

    November 30, 2011 at 9:29 am

    Oh, owww! I’m totally laughing with you, not at you. Well, now that you’ve HAD your baby, I’ll tell you – the morning after having my son through natural childbirth, I proclaimed that if I had more children, I wanted them to be born by scheduled C-section and I wanted to be knocked out. haha. Of course after a few years I softened (not enough to have more kids, but softer anyway), but I still remember saying it like it was yesterday! I won’t talk about the episiotomy and abscessed stitch. You are too funny. Good to see a post from you.

  13. Anonymous says

    November 30, 2011 at 10:18 am

    Bahahahahaaaaaaaaa! Seriously.

  14. Tracy Morrison says

    November 30, 2011 at 1:23 pm

    So good to see you. I’ve been wondering about your vagina. lol

  15. Juliecgardner says

    November 30, 2011 at 3:19 pm

    “I’m in awe of the place where her head came out.”
    I’m pretty sure Dr. Seuss wrote a book about that, didn’t he?

    Either way, you rhyme even better than he did. 
    Plus, he didn’t have a vagina. 

    I think.

  16. Stephanie says

    November 30, 2011 at 8:25 pm

    Hahaha love this!  Have missed seeing you pop up in my reader!

  17. Christine Siracusa says

    December 1, 2011 at 6:31 pm

    I had two c-sections. Soooo it’s like what? Sense memory? Like her head isn’t there anymore but you feel like it is? Birth is so weird.

  18. Varda says

    December 2, 2011 at 4:22 pm

    Well, I had my twins via planned C-section (1 in a bad / dangerous position), and my family is DONE, so I will never know firsthand of what you speak. The visual aid for this post, though? Priceless.  

    I realized I hadn’t done it yet (my bad, busy month) so came over to say hello and congrats on the new baby. Hope your brain cells are holding up, as you get through these first 3 crazy months. Your daughter is beautiful (like her mom).

  19. Mommynanibooboo says

    December 2, 2011 at 8:41 pm

    My vagina is sending yours big, fat, traumatized hugs right now.

  20. Nicole Morgan says

    December 3, 2011 at 10:30 am

    She lives!  So lovely to see you writing in your blog … altho you are doing a damn fine job around the blogosphere … and am sure looking as lovely as ever.

  21. Lady Jennie says

    December 4, 2011 at 2:12 pm

    In France, you get covered post-delivery for kegal training.  Did you know that your perineum (you know that thing that stretches for the bowling ball to go through?) is actually like a hammock that stretches from one hip bone to another, holding your organs in place?  The kegals tighten the hammock.  Hope you’re up to speed soon!

  22. Allison Nazarian says

    December 6, 2011 at 9:38 am

    Love this. And sigh. Been there. Not the VBAC, but two almost 9-pounders in less than two years. Reminds me of a quote from what was once my favorite show, “Mad About You” that giving birth is like pulling a pot roast out of a Pringles can.

  23. Missy | The Literal Mom says

    December 6, 2011 at 5:23 pm

    That was funny, you can be sure.
    And I’m so glad you’re in love with her.

    Sorry your privates feel like a ball.
    How did the doctors have the gall?

    🙂

  24. IASoupMama says

    December 9, 2011 at 10:22 pm

    Many congratulations on your miracle Piper! 

    So sorry about your lady bits.  My first (and his 90th percentile head) cause my doc to give me an episiotomy… twice.  My second came flying out and i argued with the on-call OB that her head was, indeed, smaller than my son’s even though she was 8oz heavier.  You don’t forget those details…

    And the twins were delivered by Dr. Large Hands, whose hands were roughly the size of polar bear paws.  When he stuck his paw in there halfway up his forearm to break Willa’s water, every woman in the room shuddered.   I wanted to deliver them naturally as I had my daughter, but when he walked into the room and I saw the frying pans he called hands, I signed up for the epidural ASAP.

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